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We are all called to pursue holiness and purity in our personal lives – and so if ‘how far can I go?’ is a question you regularly ponder, I would challenge you to examine your motives.‘Purity’ sounds like an old-fashioned term, but if we believe in the gospel then we believe in purity.Through Jesus Christ dying on the cross for us, we have been forgiven of all of our past sins, even sexual sin.You may be thinking, ‘Hang on, I’ve just found someone I really click with, and you’re telling me to put on the brakes?!’ Not exactly – we’re not saying that you should go and put in place a ‘NO TOUCHING: EVER’ rule, but it is important to remember the ways in which we can honour God in the way we do relationships – and in turn, honour ourselves and our partner.
So if you’re just in a relationship to ‘get some’, then you’re contradicting what a relationship is about.
While the Bible does not clearly outline the ‘thou shalt/shall nots’ of dating (dating isn’t even a concept in the Bible), from what I’ve seen, typical Christian dating begins with sly glances at each other during worship, a lot of prayer and deep consideration.
This is often followed by a few casual dates before the eventual mutual decision that yes, this person loves Jesus, I could see myself with them long-term and we’re going to make things more serious. After the hand-holding incident we were friends for a few years before sharing a few lust-driven kisses followed by one long, awkward summer during which we were NOT dating but would use every moment alone to… So when we eventually decided to make things officially official, we basically just continued along as we’d been doing before but with a little bit more of an emotional commitment and the change of our relationship statuses on Facebook. We eventually realised that our lack of physical boundaries were preventing us from connecting on a deeper emotional and spiritual level.
If we’re thinking ‘how far can I go before crossing the line? Sexual sin does not just exist within our bodies, but also in our minds.
Scripture doesn’t just tell us not to ‘approach’ the line, but to turn and flee from it.
But a truly Christian conception of boundaries in dating will not only draw physical boundaries (as if dating was merely a relationship between two Christian bodies).